Tuesday, 12 July 2016 17:44

You've been "bad". Now What? A guaranteed secret to immediately get back on track

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Cupcakes do not define who you are Cupcakes do not define who you are

You "fell off the wagon", again.  At a family gathering, you sloshed two bottles of wine and then ate 5 cupcakes. Now you’re feeling low.  Depressed even.  Looking at your bloated stomach and hating yourself. Like you used to feel so often.


You are probably aware by now that diets don't work. The old paradigm of calories in and calories out and becoming the ultimate workout warrior is unquestionably not melting the weight away. Modern diets and exercise plans are founded on old, ancient and less accurate science. Science that is only partially reliable, at best. The science upon which diets and exercise programs are based is about doing an action and receiving conventional results from that action.


What’s wrong?  What should you do? 

Changing your beliefs about your views on food, your lifestyle and how you see your body will unexpectedly give you better results.  Shifting your beliefs, slowly but surely, by constantly telling yourself the best-feeling, realistic stories you can muster will, in fact, give you “true happiness”. Your positive thoughts are gratifying – they mirror the greater alignment between your beliefs and your desires.

Thankfully Beliefs are Not Permanent – You Will Always Maintain the Ability to Choose

Each day, you wake up with a choice about your beliefs.  Which beliefs do you want to concentrate on and cling to?

The practice of changing your mind - changing your thoughts, has given you many more positive choices.  Yet, each day, they’re still choices.

Old Beliefs Are Like Old Blue Jeans – So Comfortable

So, when you do backslide, a great way to get yourself back to balance is to tell yourself a story like this:

“I’m feeling low right now; I’m feeling things related with my old beliefs.  I do know that my feelings are not ‘who I am’. I know that I have been programmed to believe that I am "good" or I am "bad", and I realize that this story of good and bad are not “telling it like it is” as I've always assumed; and I'm “telling it the way I'm choosing to tell it”! The stories I tell myself are entirely my choice! I am deciding right now and choosing to change my belief about myself".   

That self-affirming story depersonalizes your feelings and your slip-up, stops your resistance to it, halts your victimization loop, and puts you back on the path of acceptance. 

Do not panic if you experienced a back-slide into old negative behaviours and beliefs.  Instead, merely tell yourself that old habits die hard.  Up to now, you’d spent your lifetime, after all, building those old beliefs – those old neural pathways in your brain.  And, while they deteriorate with continual disuse, they do not go away overnight.

Your new beliefs are still strange in contrast with the old.  And, as surprising as it may sound, the common pain of your old beliefs is very comfortable feeling to your subconscious brain.  Why? Because your subconscious favors the familiar and the predictable (because, even when it’s painful, predictability means safety to your subconscious brain).

You and I tell stories that allocate significance to everything in our life, every second of every day. We tell stories about all the people, places, events, and situations we run into, assigning value and meaning to every single detail of our lives. Why we’re such excellent storytellers that we put Mother Goose to shame!

And your slip-up is a direct spin-off of a precise problem you have been telling yourself. Conversely, until you solve your storytelling dilemma in your mind, all the weight-loss diets, fads, magic potions, gimmicks, and pills, in the world can’t help you.

Is being "bad” really the truth? Is that the story you tell yourself? This belief exemplify just how subjective, unique, and individual your story is, regarding whether a person, place, thing, event or circumstance is “good” or “bad”.

This, in a nutshell, is the storytelling dilemma that’s played such a crucial role in your slip-up.

But, on a daily basis, you are eating food (whether that food is a cupcake or an entire bottle of Pinot Noir) that you’re telling yourself is “bad” (and somehow thinking you can dodge the consequences). Eating something you call “bad” and not suffering unwanted consequences (like, of course, weight gain) would infringe on a new paradigm. And that paradigm is founded on the super-accurate, incredibly unfailing science of quantum physics. You know you couldn’t get away from the consequences if you did the “bad” thing in the first place.

Telling yourself that something is “bad” and doing it anyway is a gigantic problem and it is, in fact, your storytelling problem. This storytelling problem is a huge part of the basis you weigh more than you’d like! Much more so than the particular foods you are (or aren’t) eating. 

We have been conditioned to tell stories about our weight, such as referring ourselves as “fat,” "You are fat" is such a harmful phrase. And when you use it to describe yourself, you always feel ugly. In fact, try it out. Say it out loud, “I am fat.”  Did that feel fuzzy and warm? Now say out loud, “I have unwanted weight.” If you’re like me, saying “unwanted weight” felt a lot better than saying “fat.”

Why are these words so imperative? Because, just as the stories you tell yourself are important, the words you use to tell your story are momentous and carry a punch.

For now, here’s why I never want you to think yourself as fat. You are not fat! Fat is not your state of being. Fat does not label you as a human being, and it is not what you are.

Start today by telling stories that serve you. Apply words that serve you by inspiring and enhancing you, not degrading you. It’s time for you to start telling yourself new stories about food, new stories about exercising, and new stories about your body. In fact, your ideal weight will only be reached when you are telling these new stories and feeling better about eating, moving, and accepting yourself right where you are. No longer do you have to reiterate and believe those stories that hurt you and keep you caged in unwanted weight!

And by telling yourself "you are enough" and that you are "totally awesome" create new beliefs.  Solving the stories you tell yourself is your key to realizing and maintaining your ideal weight.

Last modified on Tuesday, 12 July 2016 18:00
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