Monday, 29 April 2019 15:53

HOW looking at your SHADOW SELF can IMPROVE your CAREER Featured

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How well do you know yourself especially as an employee?

If you’re like most people, you probably have a decent idea about your own career aspirations, values, beliefs, and opinions.

You have a personal code that you choose to follow that dictates whether you are being a “good” employee.

If there is any one thing you can know in this universe, surely it is who you are.

But what if you’re wrong?

Now, before you launch into a, “Hey, you don’t know me, you don’t know my life, you don’t know what I’ve been through to get where I am!”-style defense, contemplate this for a second:

Have you ever said or done something at work that was really shitty, mostly on an impulse, that you later regretted?

Such as this offensive remark:  

"That's crazy!"

Beware of snap judgments. Whether directed at a person or an idea brainstormed in a meeting, "that’s crazy" reeks of discrimination and makes you look extra "judgy".  Using phrases like "that’s crazy," "how stupid," and "that’s a dumb idea," can show your true weaknesses, your power struggles and your lack of creativity at work.  Your ability to regulate your own emotions for better interpersonal relations can be the difference between having a great career versus a good one.  

Not understanding your dark side at work is sure to slow your professional growth.  The workplace is a fabric of people who can only move their projects forward with the support of others. In a macro sense, a team with strong self-awareness can mean millions of dollars added to the bottom line.

or...what about this one: "that’s not my job"!

This is a phrase you should never, ever utter at work unless you’d like to be unemployed.  Sure, it can be dreadful to be assigned a task that isn’t technically "your thing", however, answering your manager or the team with the response ‘that’s not my job’ is not a smart move.

This phrase and its cousins — "I’m too busy", and "Can’t someone else do it" — are surefire ways for your performance review to go a little something like this: “While you’ve excelled at your individual work, I’m really worried that you’re not a team player and that you are only willing to collaborate on projects, not for the good of the team but if it only interest you.  Given this, I’m not sure whether XYZ company is the place for you.”

Avoid that conversation entirely.  If you like your job and want to advance, but feel like you’re sometimes your own worst enemy, take a step back.  Is telling yourself that you're too busy feeding your ego and your insecurities.  

One thing that can sabotage you from achieving greatness is YOURSELF.  

According to Jung’s theory, we distance ourselves psychologically from those behaviors, emotions, and thoughts that we find dangerous.

Rather than confront something that we don’t like, our mind pretends it does not exist. Aggressive impulses, outburst, bragging, self-importance are a few examples of shadow aspects, things people contain but do not admit to themselves that they contain.

You hold within you the power to improve your career and make a difference to the lives of the people around you. The world desperately needs more kindness, more trust, and more cooperation to heal divisions, address interpersonal conflict, avoid bullying, harassment and discrimination.  Doing deep inner work may seem like a self-absorbed process, but you’ll come to find that, at its core, it truly becomes about so much more than just you.

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