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Despite fat shaming being the #1 tool used to whip people into shape, it's the most harmful tool you can include when trying to lose weight for longer than one summer. The reason - it's destructive? It weakens you! And it shames you! And it's not nice to treat people like that.

I want to share a powerful idea with you. And it's very simple.

It goes like this: Stop trying to feel better.

Once I realized that—my life changed. Like the total necessity of looking to your own inner wisdom and instincts, rather than looking for a solution in the external environment.  

The problem is this: Most of us know what we should do.

Our culture today is neurotically focused on unrealistic expectations: Be content. Be joyful. Be healthier. Be the greatest, better than your friends. Be sexy, smarter, faster, richer, most admired, more creative, more envied, and more popular, more Zen.

Most people aren't aware of this, but everyone owns a psychological immune system. Just like your body's immune system will bring you back to health when you're sick, your psychological immune system will do the same at times when you're feeling frustrated, confused, anxious or sad.

Tuesday, 28 November 2017 12:10


There’s a contradiction with the self-improvement inspiration and it is this: the ultimate goal of all self-improvement is to reach the point where you no longer feel the need to improve yourself.

Wednesday, 22 November 2017 11:46


The New Year is just around the corner and let’s imagine for a moment that you have decided that you want to become rich. Maybe you’re sick of your student loan debt. Maybe you’re sick of paying overdraft charges and eating frozen waffles for dinner every night.

Monday, 06 November 2017 16:07

It's too SMALL

No...I'm not talking about your weenie, or your paycheck or the size 5 pants that been hanging in your closet for over a year.

I'm talking about your dreams

Dreams… we all have them. Or, so we say.

Often, we keep our dreams in check because we don’t want to feel dissatisfied.

We limit them. We hold back. And we settle for less.

What is your dream?

Friday, 20 October 2017 14:11

Celebs, Vision Boards And Achieving Dreams

What do Jack Canfield, Oprah, Steve Harvey, Ellen DeGeneres, Katie Perry and many others have in common? They all use vision boards.

Celebrities have hopes and dreams, just like us. But these celebs were able to get to megastar status by writing down goals, creating vision boards, and working hard. When Katy Perry was 9 years old, her teacher invited the class to create a vision board. She pasted a picture of Selena holding a Grammy. Fast forward 15 years, Katy was nominated for her first award!

Friday, 29 September 2017 18:45

Why not being SPECIAL will make you HAPPIER

It’s funny; a lot of people who travel to the third-world claim that people are “happier” there. They often follow it up with some trite testimonial about materialism and how we’d all be so much better-off if we learn to live with less. This might be a fallacy. Poor people in developing cultures aren’t happier; they’re just less worried and less stressed out.

Monday, 02 October 2017 16:38

THE MOST significant QUESTION OF your LIFE

Everyone wants to feel good and live an untroubled, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have great sex and relationships, to look great and make lots of cash and be admired and respected and a total badass to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room.

Everyone would like that — it’s easy to like that.

Tuesday, 19 September 2017 14:31

Why happiness is overrated

The best part of my job is listening to my clients express their problems and recap their life concerns.  Most view their problems in a negative light and the pain of the situation is met with great resistance. Our culture stresses the importance of happiness. If I had a penny for every time a happiness guru has pointed out that our increased possessions have made us no happier than we were 50 years ago, I would have enough money to buy a really good pair of those Bose headphones - you know the ones that enable you to completely block out the happy people nearby, especially the one who is whistling.

If you've ever tried to shed a few pounds, you know it's not easy —but there's nothing more rewarding than the moment you realize that your deliberate, steady progress has paid off. Maybe you've added more vegetables to your diet, or perhaps you've taken up walking every day or join a yoga class. Whatever the case, there's no one thing that leads to losing weight and keeping it off—it's a sequence of little tweaks.

Whether you're getting started on your own weight loss journey or you're looking to stay on track, here are a few hacks to keep in mind.